Good afternoon, y'all. If you're American, I hope you had a lovely Thanksgiving and that there weren't any overly heated arguments over the dinner table. (And if there were, I hope they were fruitful ones.) Mine was drama-free like I like it. For me, Thanksgiving is not about the myth of pilgrims and indigenous people eating together in peace just before the pilgrims turn on the indigenous people by killing them with germs, guns, and racism--it's about Family. It's about renewing that connection. It's also about friends who are also my family. It's about reaching out to one another with love and thankfulness. There was a lot of that this year, and I'm glad.

If you're not American, I hope you had a lovely weekend.

Okay. Links and videos time!

American Thanksgiving is this Thursday. So, it's likely this is the only post from me this week. I've novels to finish rewriting and pies to bake. (Six of them to be exact.) At least there's zero chance of Headbees. :) 

This week I wanted to add on to last week's discussion about white women and women of color working together. This is something I want to explore. We need to discuss the differences in our varying cultures and face our biases against our sisters. Don't get me wrong, from my perspective (a white woman's perspective) I feel a huge part of the work is necessary on white women's end of the discussion. I will not shift the blame--not that blame is an active part in the discussion. Trump, white nationalism, and racism are in power at this moment because a majority of white women actively worked for it. We are responsible. That needs to change before we make any headway. Period. And the only way that happens is if we own up to our own biases. Anyway, I wanted to draw attention to this Red Table Talk video. Even though it barely scratches the surface of the long discussion that needs to happen--it's a start. Sadly, you can't watch it without getting into FB. Not ideal, I know. But it's totally worth it. I haven't made my way through all those videos yet, but I will.

The next video answers a question I had about Feminism and Right Wing women--an important discussion when talking about white women and their relationship to power. Bonus note: everything said about Hefner's stance on what Playboy was all about is directly applicable to Crowley/Alexandrian/Gardnerian witchcraft. All three are bound up in the gender binary and sexism. It's in their blueprint. You cannot use sexist symbolism and simply declare it not sexist. The unconscious doesn't work that way. Symbolism is a language. It's used to communicate with the unconscious. And just like when you use words--you're using all the definitions of words when you communicate whether you mean to or not. This is even more the case when symbolism is used. (Now, add to this picture the film The Runaways -- watch the whole thing to understand what I'm saying -- and punk's/rock's relationship with women in general.)

This next video is amazing. Get ready to cry.

And now, those links.

Ok. I'm just going to say it. I never watched the original show--although, my husband did. (one of the many reasons why my husband rocks, y'all.) You see, I barely got through one episode of He-Man and knew it to be total crap.[1] When She-Ra came out and I heard it was related, I didn't even bother. Turns out, I was wrong to do that. But hey, teenager. :D

I love the new look. She's clearly a teenager or preteen storyline-wise. Here's what she used to look like.

That was the other reason I didn't give She-Ra a chance: male-gaze. When I was eight or so I picked up a comic book--X-men, I believe--and instantly knew it wasn't for me due to the tight clothes and giant breasts on the female characters. I may have read a few pages before putting it back on the rack. (I'm pretty sure I saw some sexual harassment on the pages and decided I had enough of that in real life.) Anyway, male-gaze does not belong in material intended for young girls. There needs to be someplace safe for girls to see themselves as whole and powerful. Their own imagination should be one of those places. I'm damned glad the reboot decided to make that change regardless of the stupid whining of fanboys.

Dane and I are only a couple of episodes in, but I'm already hooked. Also? Aggretsuko is awesome. More on both of these later. I've a book to finish rewriting and editing. :)

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[1] Note: He-Man claims to be the most powerful man in the universe. She-Ra, on the other hand, is just 'a princess of power.' Funny how the indoctrination of misogyny starts so early. She-Ra also has a team of helpers--one of them a man. He-Man stands alone. Look, I don't have a problem with teamwork. Frankly, that's how things really get done. The Lone Savior Myth is harmful in so many, many ways--not the least of which it sets up men (and the rest of us) for failure. Because did I mention that teamwork is how change really happens? 

Good morning, y'all. Today, I thought I'd add a bit to that previous post because I've finally finished watching The Chilling Adventures of Sabrina and well...there are things to say. (Oh, did you see this? I told you pagans are getting sick of the same old "witches are evil!" bullshit.) There may be some mild spoilers. If you haven't watched it yet, just skip the next paragraph and move on to the discussion that follows.

First, it ultimately fails in its inclusive Feminism when it lets down Prudence, the African American leader of the Weird Sisters. I'd like to add that Prudence's story just fizzles out. It goes nowhere. It's not even remotely satisfying. I had hopes that it was going to go somewhere cool--an understanding between her and Sabrina. (And one of the first times ever white women and African American women are seen cooperating within a genre story.) But no. It went straight to the same old "angry black woman" vs "nice white lady" stereotypes. [sigh] (I'm glaring at you, American Horror Story.)

Y'all, I'd really like to see inclusive genre fiction showing women of all backgrounds, abilities, and orientations working together. Women need this, badly. The reason why is because individually we can't overthrow the Patriarchy. Case in point: American white women continuing to vote Republican even though this runs against their self-interests. This is no accident. This is how systemic misogyny stays in power, y'all. Divide and conquer. And as long as this happens we'll see defeat on election day. Everyone (justifiably so) keeps asking why? The problem is, they keep missing the obvious. I know I did.

I was planning another essay about Sabrina and the issues that cropped up in the last half but...I've a deadline and I really, really, really, really need to get things done. So, I'm going to not do that today. Sorry. (Nonetheless, this essay from TeenVogue goes into detail about what went wrong.) I hope you have a lovely week!